About Adyan

At Attraction by Aydan, my approach to relationship coaching is deeply rooted in understanding the complexities of masculine and feminine dynamics. These traits are not rigid definitions of development but are instead the result of a cultural evolution. The 80/80 rule, alongside a biblical perspective on relationship roles and dynamics, has been a significant focus of my studies. My findings reveal that both men and women embody traits of masculinity and femininity, developed through cultural influences rather than inherent gender identities.

Traditionally, society has imposed a patriarchal structure on families, with distinct roles for men and women. However, the modern family has evolved, presenting new dynamics such as the man as the breadwinner and woman as the housekeeper, the woman as the breadwinner and man as the housekeeper, or an equal 50/50 split in income and house responsibilities. This freedom of choice is both liberating and challenging for young couples to navigate.

In today’s cultural landscape, many women express a desire for a masculine partner while also seeking the freedom to pursue careers, engage in activities outside the home, and share household responsibilities equally. This raises the question: What role should men play in this evolving dynamic where traditional patriarchal approaches are becoming obsolete? Should we abandon feminism to return to traditional roles, or should we redefine what it means to be masculine and feminine in alignment with our natural evolution?

I advocate for the latter. It is crucial to redefine and adapt our understanding of masculinity and femininity to keep pace with cultural changes. This philosophy underpins my approach to helping men navigate modern dating, choose partners aligned with their values, and develop their masculine or feminine energies to create unbreakable relationships grounded in faith.

My personal experiences have driven me to write a book specifically for men, focusing on their psyche and consciousness to enhance their self-worth and relationships. Despite being frequently questioned about why a woman would write for men, I find a significant gap in the self-help literature available to men. Many resources are either hyper-masculine guides or superficial tactics for picking up women, which often fail to address the deeper aspects of personal growth and relationship building.

I am not a dating guru or a feminist pushing a one-size-fits-all narrative. I aim to provide a balanced perspective that acknowledges the unique challenges men face. Social media often places women on a pedestal while men continue to be held to outdated standards of masculinity. Men are expected to be strong and stoic, yet also vulnerable when needed, creating a confusing and often contradictory set of expectations.

Understanding the impact of upbringing, societal pressures, and emotional suppression is vital. Many men have been raised to prioritize external achievements over emotional intelligence, leading to a disconnect between their true selves and societal expectations. This disconnect often manifests in relationships, where men struggle to balance vulnerability and strength.

My goal is to help men discover their true selves, build self-love, and raise their standards in relationships. By embracing both their masculine and feminine sides, men can break free from the cycle of suppression and societal expectations, leading to healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

At Attraction by Aydan, I am committed to guiding men through this journey of self-discovery and personal growth, helping them become the best versions of themselves and fostering relationships built on mutual respect, understanding, and genuine connection.